today I am setting small goals – instead of “loose 20 lbs in 3 mo” my goal is “get to the gym today do a workout – any workout”. this goal is encouraging and do-able. I need to set myself up for a win. When I say this goal out loud my inner-critic is silent. […]
I have been training for the last 12 months in a couples therapy modality Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT. Many of my future blog posts will be up about EFT. I will be talking about: the experience of learning and training in EFT; the experience of conducting therapy; and interesting stories from client lives. Of […]
Others imply that they know what it is like to be depressed because they have gone through a divorce, lost a job, or broken up with someone. But these experiences carry with them feelings. Depression, instead, is flat, hollow, and unendurable. It is also tiresome. People cannot abide being around you when you are depressed. […]
When I have been the most depressed one constant was a brutally critical interior conversation. This inner critic was loud and menacing, usually communicating to me that I was worthless and weak, not worthy of love, and that getting out of the depression was unlikely. Over many years of cognitive and spiritual work I have […]
I am convinced that the best antidote to negativity is gratitude. It has been said a million times. And that is because it is true. Try starting your day by thinking of 5 things you are grateful for. It will change your energy and vibration and thus your life!